How Can I Contribute As a Member of a Women's Group?

Being a member of a women's group can be an incredibly fulfilling experience. When we look to joining such a group, we typically ask ourselves what this group will do for us. Why should I join this group? Will it give me what I need? However, it is also important to ask yourself what you can bring to the group.


When you decide to become a member of a women's group, you must remember that you are developing a relationship with the members of the group. Relationships are a two-way street. As such, not only should you expect to gain something personally from the group, but you should also be willing to give of yourself to the group. If you are not willing to do so, then you will not truly reap the full benefits of the group. You will not truly be a member of the group and will not establish the type of relationships that you likely desire.
So what can you bring to the group? First, you need to be completely there mentally. That means, when you are meeting with the group, you are actively participating rather than spending the time texting on your phone, checking e-mails, or sitting there quietly and not engaging in any conversation. You also need to be there regularly. Make the commitment to show up to the group meetings on a regular basis (save for the occasional sickness or vacation) and show up on time. If you do not make the physical commitment to be there, the group will not consider you a true member of the group and will not seek your full participation. This will result in your being somewhat alienated from your women's group.

Think about what other skills you possess, whether it is in your personal life or your professional life. Chances are you can apply those skills to the group. If you are great at organizing, then help the group by organizing some of the meetings or perhaps some special activities or events for the group to do. If you are creative and like thinking up new things for the group to do, then run a brainstorming session or two and actively throw out ideas to the group. Perhaps you are a great cook or a wine enthusiast. You could make some tasty appetizers for the group to nosh on during the meetings, or run a wine tasting event during one of the meetings.

You may not have any particularly special skills which you feel would be an asset to the group. However, simply being a good listener or a good talker can be assets. Most women's groups get together and gab the whole time. Being a good talker means that you can actively participate in the conversation and engage with each woman in the group. Being a good listener means that you will really hear what each person is saying and can respond accordingly, which is the recipe for a successful and enjoyable conversation. You may also encounter a member who is going through a rough time in her life who needs someone to just listen to her. Fortunately, you can be that ear, that shoulder to lean on.

Most importantly, when you are involved in a women's group, always show each and every member the utmost respect. You will surely be rewarded in kind